It is often the adult children who notice that the mother, father or their relatives experience depression, agitation, anxiety or a marked change in mood. These changes are often triggered by the death of a spouse or family member, financial concerns, changes in health and mobility, or early dementia.
For example, once the subject is been raised, “Mom, I think you might need advice,” the squealing of the brakes is almost audible, as the senior relentlessly denies a problem or thinks you are too far away in your evaluation. The reaction of your superior is understandable. The current elder/senior population is a generation that has learned to “get going” when life becomes difficult. Therefore, it is normal for today’s senior to try to resolve a mood disorder by himself.
How To Help Your Older Person To Accept Help
This “set of generation” does not easily accept or recognize the need for help, especially when the words “mental health” are used. Mental health in its generational language can also mean “crazy”. Therefore, it makes sense that an older adult who already feels vulnerable should not be considered or designated as requiring mental health care. How do you help your father accept help?
- Formulate your terminology.
Instead of using the term “mental health,” try using words that match the situation, for example, “Mom, let’s get help with dad’s Death,” “Let’s find out how you can feel better.” or “I think we both need emotional support,” “I feel the need to see a counselor, why not come with me?”
- Help your superior navigate the system
If you give your superior the phone number of a counseling clinic, it is most likely that you will not go anywhere. Help your superior navigate the system. Call your doctor or local counseling centers to better understand what services are available. Find out what Medicare covers and its supplemental insurance. If you can find a counseling service at home, consider this option so that your older adult does not have to drive or be ashamed to go to a psychiatric hospital.
- Help your superior by being there
If a consultant offers an internal service or a consultation appointment, if possible, you should consider yourself at the clinic to go or meet with your superior. You can even ask your supervisor if you wish to attend the first meeting to reduce stress, and you can share your observations with the counselor when requested.
- What happens if number one, two and three do not work?
If your senior relentlessly refuses any help about their mood, there are options. If possible, spend a little more time with your superior or, if you are not in the area, interview a friend who reviews it weekly. Help your senior to find new friends by introducing him to his local Senior Center. Ask the staff for ideas to involve their superior. If your older child is in an older community, call the Social Worker and / or Activities Director personally and ask them to work with your parents to involve them.